The children of today are growing up in an environment where various internal and external factors contribute to their overall development. Influences can be good and bad. As it is not possible to do away with the omnipresent influences that can result in harming a child’s personality, parents can help in preventing the bad ones from leaving indelible impressions on their child’s mind.
Here are some tips which parents can use with their children when your child makes friends with someone who is rowdy, disobedient, uncontrollable and unmanageable. In this case, if parents try to keep their child away from that person, the more their child will want to spend time with such a friend. When the child feels he or she is not being allowed to do so, a sense of isolation with the parents will set in and he or she may get more rebellious than before. Unless the friend in question is really bad, parents should not interfere in the friendship.
When you child answers back with bad language, children observe adults talking back and like to experiment in the same manner, to get a sense of liberation. The best way to deal with this is to softly make your child aware that you know where they are learning all this from. Parents need to clarify with their child that they do not approve of this kind of behavior and the child will be reprimanded if he or she goes out of bounds.
When children softly talk about forbidden things. It is natural for children to explore their sexuality and talk about it. However parents need to gently introduce the topic to their children before the child starts hearing about it from others. Parents also need to realize that their child’s friend or classmate might not have complete knowledge of the subject and it is the duty of parents to educate their child in a manner that is appropriate for their child.
Children who are fond of thrills and dangerous activities. There are children who are impulsive and spontaneous. They are drawn towards activities that are enthralling and risky at the same time. Parents of such children need to exercise extra caution. Small children need to be made to understand about listening to their own voice inside or their conscience, which may make them realize that their preferred activity can be dangerous. When it comes to older children, they might not heed the advice offered by parents. However, parents should not give up and help their child understand the consequences of their actions. When children are in the company of a rude and insensitive people, parents need to make their child realize that his or her friend’s behavior with other people is not an appreciable one and they should not follow in the same steps. They should allow the child to question their own emotions. This means asking the child as to how does he or she feel when their friend displays unpleasant behavior with other people. When the child looks inward for answers, he or she will hopefully realize the values of compassion and goodness.